My boyfriend and I are a bit adventurous in the bedroom and like to try some new positions. Usually we just go with whatever sounds like it might be different but we have looked at books. One place that we’ve been able to find inspiration has been the Kama Sutra. Here are a few positions that I think sound divine.
Inversion/The Put Under One
This is a position that I have tried before. It makes for a very unique feeling for both partners. He lays on his back while the woman straddles his hips, but facing away from him. She guides his cock into her pussy then leans forward, resting her breasts on his thighs. The woman is primarily in control as she moves back and forth. The great thing about this position is that it leaves the woman’s ass nicely exposed. This would be an excellent time for anal explorations with either his fingers or a toy. We were both amazed at how incredibly different it felt in this position and he was quite quickly brought to the point of orgasm. In The Put Under One position, the woman sits upright and does not lean forward. Check out this cool animation of the position.
The Elephant
This is a position that allows for vaginal or anal entry and sounds like it could be quite interesting. This position would work well if one partner is heavy set. One partner lies on their side with their legs pulled up like they’re sitting in a chair. The other partner kneels by the ass then enters the partner. From this position the kneeling partner can easily access both holes and the clit. An alternate position could be with the top leg of the one laying down resting on the kneeling partner’s shoulder allowing for better clit access. Check out this cool animation of the position.
The Surprise
This is a position that I’ve talked about in fantasy but haven’t tried it yet. Both partners are standing. The one in front bends over as if they are going to touch the floor with their hands. The other partner stands behind and penetrates either the vagina or the ass. The bent over partner should have both hands on the floor and be able to flex their knees. This is a very domineering position. If the bent over partner can relax then the ass is more accessible and anal play with fingers or toys can be used. You can find images for this and the next three positions here.
The Screw
This is another position that I haven’t tried but I would like to and is much like The Elephant. This position would also be good if one partner is heavy set. One partner lies on the bed with their ass right at the end of the mattress. The partner who is lying down has their body in an L shape with the legs fully extended out. The other partner kneels next to the bed and penetrates either the vagina or ass. From this position the kneeling partner can easily access both holes and the clit.
The Mill Vanes
This is definitely one I want to try during foreplay. The woman lies on her back while the man lies on top of her with his cock resting against her mound. His legs resting alongside of her arms and her legs can be wrapped around his waist. This allows him to stimulate her clit with his cock and her to have access to his ass and balls.
Have fun trying these positions or any of the other fun positions you'll find at the sites I linked to. Let us know what you did to 'mix it up' with these new positions.
Sunday, February 11, 2007
Thursday, February 08, 2007
How to Hear Your Partner
Your sexual relationship, as well as all other aspects of your relationship, depends highly on being able to communicate. The most important part of that is listening. Do you know how to listen to your partner and really hear what they're saying? This is something I know I need to work on so I thought it might be good to do a little research to find some tips and share them with you.
Listening Tips
Listening Tips
- Listening requires both people to pay attention and avoid distractions. This shows your partner that you intend to listen. It also means setting aside your own thoughts and opinions until you have heard what your partner has to say.
- Listening requires you to hear your partner and sense their feelings. Make sure you understand what they're saying by putting it in your own words: "Do you mean. . .?" "Are you saying. . .?" This helps you know whether you’ve understood what your partner really means and show that you're hearing them.
- Listening requires you to be open and respect what your partner is saying. You may not agree, but it demonstrates your respect for them.
- Listening requires a response, not necessarily an answer. Let the other person know you are ready for more listening. " Tell me more about that."
- Communication is difficult when strong emotions are present. It may be better to wait until you and/or your partner are more calm and able to talk and hear more rationally.
These are just a few tips that you can use to start hearing your partner more and building a better understanding that will help you in your day to day interactions and in the bedroom.
Saturday, February 03, 2007
Roleplaying Fun
Role playing is a great way to deepen and enrich your relationship. When both parties feel safe and secure, this playing often results in you both finding out more about each other -- what you want done to you and for you. It will broaden both of your horizons and allow your fantasy world to be revealed. Expectations can be thrown out the window, traditions flushed down the toilet. The time you spend role playing will be well spent communicating with and pleasuring yourself and your lover.
Stripper
A lap dance is a deeply sensual act, and when done properly, leaves both participants feeling rather randy. If the person playing the dancer is very conscious of their body there are a few things you can do to help ease their concerns. Dim the lights or use red lights (covering a normal lamp with red material also works). Any lumps and bumps are smoothed out. Keep in mind that the removal of all clothes is not strictly necessary, so let your partner know they can keep on some sexy clothes. As long as the moves are hot and the lighting is appropriate, it will look great and the effect will be the same.
You’re a dancer in a club and are asked to do a private dance. You take the client into your private booth and close the curtains, then proceeds to do your best striptease. There are rules: no touching and no kissing. He may put money down her garter belt. He must keep his clothes on.
A sexy twist on the paid strip scenario is for it to be impromptu. For example, your partner locks you in the garden then gives you a decadent strip tease through the window where you can see but not touch or get in the house until they say.
Boss and Secretary
It is supposed that the boss is in control and calls the shots, but when sex is involved, this shifts to a dangerously sexy level where the employee or secretary is actually calling the shots. The employee loves this because it gives them the power in that particular situation, even if they have none (or very little) at other times at work.
The secretary hides underneath the boss’ big desk before an important meeting. The secretary performs oral sex on the boss while they are in the middle of an important business deal. The clients are sitting right in front of the desk. They have to keep a straight face and continue on with the meeting. Alternatively, they may be on the phone (doing this for real is fun) and has to continue with the phone conversation without faltering.
The secretary wears some very, very sexy underwear to work. She has to try to show her boss what she is wearing while still maintaining a “professional” appearance. She teases him as she does the photocopying, while she puts papers on his desk, while he is talking to her. She has to seduce him without taking her clothes off. A strip tease can also be incorporated into this scenario, where he cannot touch her until she says so.
Photographer and Model
The sexy part about this is the no touching rule, which leads to imaginations running rampant. The photographer and model scene is great for watching each other and acting out fantasies. It can be used to encourage your partner to be something they may have always wanted to be -- a devil in front of a camera, but with no proper opportunity to do so.
Lighting is incredibly important. Use props so your partner can cover themself in key areas should they want. You want then to be making love to the camera, and the person behind it. The beauty here is basically ordering each other to do things. Use a filmless camera or a digital camera then erase the pictures immediately following your sexy session.
A photographer has a studio set up and wishes for the model to pose for some sexy nudes. When the model arrives they drink some champagne and discuss the shots. Once set up, the photographer tells then how to stand and pose with whatever props the photographer likes.
The photographer has a new model prepared for some nudes they have to do for a client. The theme the client has asked for is “dripping sexuality with sophistication” -- the client wants the model to express their sexuality in whatever way he or the photographer deems appropriate, using any props necessary.
These are just a few scenes you can try. Let your imagination run rampant. If developed correctly, comfortably and with sex appeal, role playing can become a successful way to get what you want out of your sex life without having to leave the house. As always: explore and enjoy -- you’ll both be better for it.
Stripper
A lap dance is a deeply sensual act, and when done properly, leaves both participants feeling rather randy. If the person playing the dancer is very conscious of their body there are a few things you can do to help ease their concerns. Dim the lights or use red lights (covering a normal lamp with red material also works). Any lumps and bumps are smoothed out. Keep in mind that the removal of all clothes is not strictly necessary, so let your partner know they can keep on some sexy clothes. As long as the moves are hot and the lighting is appropriate, it will look great and the effect will be the same.
You’re a dancer in a club and are asked to do a private dance. You take the client into your private booth and close the curtains, then proceeds to do your best striptease. There are rules: no touching and no kissing. He may put money down her garter belt. He must keep his clothes on.
A sexy twist on the paid strip scenario is for it to be impromptu. For example, your partner locks you in the garden then gives you a decadent strip tease through the window where you can see but not touch or get in the house until they say.
Boss and Secretary
It is supposed that the boss is in control and calls the shots, but when sex is involved, this shifts to a dangerously sexy level where the employee or secretary is actually calling the shots. The employee loves this because it gives them the power in that particular situation, even if they have none (or very little) at other times at work.
The secretary hides underneath the boss’ big desk before an important meeting. The secretary performs oral sex on the boss while they are in the middle of an important business deal. The clients are sitting right in front of the desk. They have to keep a straight face and continue on with the meeting. Alternatively, they may be on the phone (doing this for real is fun) and has to continue with the phone conversation without faltering.
The secretary wears some very, very sexy underwear to work. She has to try to show her boss what she is wearing while still maintaining a “professional” appearance. She teases him as she does the photocopying, while she puts papers on his desk, while he is talking to her. She has to seduce him without taking her clothes off. A strip tease can also be incorporated into this scenario, where he cannot touch her until she says so.
Photographer and Model
The sexy part about this is the no touching rule, which leads to imaginations running rampant. The photographer and model scene is great for watching each other and acting out fantasies. It can be used to encourage your partner to be something they may have always wanted to be -- a devil in front of a camera, but with no proper opportunity to do so.
Lighting is incredibly important. Use props so your partner can cover themself in key areas should they want. You want then to be making love to the camera, and the person behind it. The beauty here is basically ordering each other to do things. Use a filmless camera or a digital camera then erase the pictures immediately following your sexy session.
A photographer has a studio set up and wishes for the model to pose for some sexy nudes. When the model arrives they drink some champagne and discuss the shots. Once set up, the photographer tells then how to stand and pose with whatever props the photographer likes.
The photographer has a new model prepared for some nudes they have to do for a client. The theme the client has asked for is “dripping sexuality with sophistication” -- the client wants the model to express their sexuality in whatever way he or the photographer deems appropriate, using any props necessary.
These are just a few scenes you can try. Let your imagination run rampant. If developed correctly, comfortably and with sex appeal, role playing can become a successful way to get what you want out of your sex life without having to leave the house. As always: explore and enjoy -- you’ll both be better for it.
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