The 'A-Spot'

There is a male version of the ‘g-spot’. It is known as the ‘a-spot’ or prostate gland. Stimulating his a-spot is very easy. This article will tell you almost everything you need to know about it.

Most men are a bit nervous about the idea of having their ass played with because of the stigma around it being something gay men do. They don’t want anyone thinking they’re gay or even bisexual just because they enjoy having their prostrate massaged. Odds are they will have already started exploring it themselves with their fingers, possibly in the shower or when masturbating. If it is something you’re interested in exploring further, or you’ve discovered that he’s been doing his own exploration, talk to him about it. Tell him you think it is a turn on and you’d like to try it out.

The first step is easy. While you’re giving him a blow job or a hand job reach between his legs and gently massage/caress the area around his ass hole. Maybe just press the tip of a finger against the opening but not penetrating. Do that for a bit and see how he reacts. Odds are it will make his cock a whole lot harder.

Safety Notes: Before we continue on this journey there are a couple of things you should be aware of. Always make sure the fingers that you’re planning on using during this time have been groomed so there are no ragged edges that could cut or chafe the inside of his ass. Cover your fingers with a condom. This will protect both your fingers and his ass by keeping everything nice and clean. Also, make sure you use lots of lube and that the lube is the kind that will not compromise the condom you’re using.

For step two you’ll need to make sure you have the condom and lube ready. Cover your index finger with the condom then coat it liberally with the lube. You’ll start doing step one again only this time you’ll actually slowly push your finger into the opening. As you gently apply force to get the finger in deeper move it around and stretch the hole a bit. You don’t even need to penetrate completely, continue at his comfort level. You could just gently finger fuck his ass as you suck on his cock or watch him masturbate.

Communication is essential! You need to listen to what he is saying. If he says something hurts, then stop doing it. If says it feels really good, keep doing it. If you don’t like something about it, you need to say something. He is also going to have to get used to being in a more submissive position and not being in control. You will have the power to make him feel pleasure or pain or a mixture of them. While not completely helpless, it is a position that will render him less capable of stopping the action.

The next step is full penetration. After he’s gotten used to having his ass fingered a bit he’ll be ready to have you slip your fingers in completely. Just go slowly and use steady pressure. Before long you’ll have your finger buried inside him. Let him get used to it as you lightly press against the muscles, massaging them so they’ll relax some. Now you can start looking for the ‘magic button’, also known as the A-Spot or prostrate gland.

In this picture, you can see how close the prostrate gland is to the canal leading to the rectum. It is about the length of your index finger deep into the body. It is very easy to find, just keep moving your finger around until he starts to moan. You’ll definitely know when you’ve hit it. He will most likely have a very strong reaction. It might be enough for him to blow his load right then and there, especially the first time. It is one of the few times I’ve seen a man’s body literally shake from the incredibly intense feeling.

Crook your fingers towards his stomach and gently massage the spot. While you’re doing this you can be sucking on his cock or giving him a hand job or he could be masturbating. He could be doing nothing else but just enjoying the sensations emanating from his ass. This action will make it virtually impossible for him to hold back for very long.

Once he is used to one finger, you can try adding a second one (they should fit into the same condom). If he’s comfortable with it, you can start to gently move the fingers in and out in a fucking motion. You should eventually, with enough massaging and experience, be able to really finger his ass like he would your pussy.

After he’s used to fingers you can introduce some toys. There are all kinds of toys out there for anal play—plugs, beads, vibrators, dildos and strap-ons. From short and thin ones for beginners to long, thick ones for more advanced players, there’s going to be one that will suit your needs. The plugs, which are designed to be held in place by their shape, are good for when he wants to feel full while he’s filling you. The beads are also good for this. Vibrators and dildos should be used more when there is going to be direct involvement.

Strap-ons can be used by either a man (they have hollow ones where an erect or semi-erect penis can go) or a woman. There are a variety of dildos and vibrators that can be used. Some are designed so that the woman has clitoral stimulation and/or a cock to slip inside her pussy while she’s using the other end on the man, but most are just regular looking cocks that you attach to a special harness.

When starting out go for the smaller butt plugs and fuck him gently until both you and he get used to the feel of it. Odds are you’ve never used a strap-on before so you’ll have to get used to the feel of wearing a cock, as well as sorting out the right angle to enter and all those things that seem to come more naturally to men. As you both get more comfortable you can move to bigger toys.

With some patience and a bit of initiative, this can be a very pleasurable addition to your sexual menu. It isn’t for everyone but I highly recommend giving it a try.