Orgasm Control

Orgasm control is about teaching yourself how to better control when you orgasm, or how long you can last before you have an orgasm. It is typically used in BDSM but not always. This can work for men and women and the end result will be a much more intense orgasm.

How to Do It:

This is generally practiced alone. Set yourself a goal of like masturbating for 20 minutes before you orgasm. When you’ve been able to hold off the full time for a few days in a row, like 3 or 4 days, then make it 25 minutes. Keep adding five or ten minutes each time you have a series of successes. The goal is to get to an hour or more.

Tips:

• If you're getting close then back off but don't stop. You should maintain contact throughout.
• You may need to use a lube of some sort to make sure that it is comfortable during the entire practice session.
• Keep track of your successes and jot down what seems to work better for you.
• Try to do this daily if possible.
• This is a skill that needs to be practiced to be able to maintain.

Orgasm control can be difficult to do as partially it requires a time commitment and focus but there is no reason why you cannot train yourself to hold off your orgasm for an hour or more. When you're comfortable with your solo success then you can add your partner, which should make it more challenging. This doesn't mean that the quickie is a thing of the past but it should allow you to extend your playing time.

A friend of mine has practiced solo orgasm control for a number of years now. He can now go more than an hour before he erupts in what he describes as an incredibly intense orgasm. He says he can regularly hit his face with his cum. He says that using a lube helps, especially towards the end. The only thing he warns about is that afterwards your cock may be very sensitive to being touched by anything.